I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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When you go looking for evil that is what you find

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I’ve reached a breaking point. I really want to write a blog about what is going on with the whole #GamerGate fiasco and the  implications. I got into a conversation today and yesterday that really disturbed me. There are a lot of people who seem to think this issue is only about video games. That is so not the case.

This is not about throwing fits over gaming reviews and gamer rights. It’s about how women are being treated. The stream of vile profanities, abuse, and threats being flung at these women. Not just in private but all over the internet. These women’s lives are being eviscerated, because a few guys don’t like their points of view. I’ll get into it more later but now this is about the fall out from research.

There is so much out there on the things these women and their families are being put through. When you did deeper and you look for more it’s everywhere. The things that people do. The names called. The things done to children. I can’t help but feel that we have failed as a culture as whole the human race has failed. Failed to be basically good.

I’m going to try to weed through all the information and give you a cohesive picture of what is wrong. Of where we need to change and how to move forward. I fear it will take longer to crank it out than I thought, but I am committed to this. I think this is so important and I don’t want to fall short on this. Humanity is scary.

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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When you go looking for evil that is what you find

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I’ve reached a breaking point. I really want to write a blog about what is going on with the whole #GamerGate fiasco and the  implications. I got into a conversation today and yesterday that really disturbed me. There are a lot of people who seem to think this issue is only about video games. That is so not the case.

This is not about throwing fits over gaming reviews and gamer rights. It’s about how women are being treated. The stream of vile profanities, abuse, and threats being flung at these women. Not just in private but all over the internet. These women’s lives are being eviscerated, because a few guys don’t like their points of view. I’ll get into it more later but now this is about the fall out from research.

There is so much out there on the things these women and their families are being put through. When you did deeper and you look for more it’s everywhere. The things that people do. The names called. The things done to children. I can’t help but feel that we have failed as a culture as whole the human race has failed. Failed to be basically good.

I’m going to try to weed through all the information and give you a cohesive picture of what is wrong. Of where we need to change and how to move forward. I fear it will take longer to crank it out than I thought, but I am committed to this. I think this is so important and I don’t want to fall short on this. Humanity is scary.

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

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To All who use the bible as a reason to spread hate, intollerence, bigotry, and fear.

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So I grew up Christian. My parents were raised Catholic. They met a Grace bible college. My Father is an ex-reverend. I spent most of my childhood in church be it for chior, bible study, Awana clubs, or sunday school. I have actually read the whole bible cover to cover not just studied excerpts that fit what I chose to adhere to. I still see myself as Christian, but I don’t go to church anymore. There are too many who use their faith to make themselves feel superior. That is not what religion, in any form, should be about. Your faith or relationship with God, doesn’t make you any better or worse than anyone else. Your relationship with god should be just that. Not an excuse to judge or look down on others.

Now My biggest beef is people quoting the bible to rationalize their hate. Let me fill you in on something. There is a progression in the bible. God changes, a lot, from the begining to the end. Are there places where God lays down the law and is harsh and vengeful? Heck yes there are, but there are also places where God is kind compassionate and understanding. If you actually read the book you will notice that most(I said most not all) of reigning fire and brimstone is at the begining. Our begining. There is a period of trial and error between us and God. Where got is teaching us and learning himself how to deal with us. It’s like any parent child relationship. There are the baby and childhood years where we are testing the waters and figuring out what we can get away with and where God is setting boundries. Figuring out through trial and error what works best to teach us. I mean through out the Bible there is obvious growth in who God is. The God that flooded the earth and who killed all the first born of Egypt etc. Is a different person than the God who sent Jesus (God’s Son) to die for our sin. Jesus Christ saved and stood up for prostitutes, Destroyed a temple because they had bcome too self righteous and  more conserned with appearances and wealth, and righteousness that they no longer cared for the people. Sounds a little like some of those Christians out there claiming they have righteousness on their side. In the End Jesus didn’t seem too conserned with righteousness so why are we. He even said “Judge not lest ye be judged” and “Let he who is free of sin cast the first stone.” I’m sorry but in the 21st century it is neigh on impossible to be free of sin especially if you want to quote from the old testiment on what is considered a sin. Especially Leviticus. Are you wearing a poly blend? You deserve death. Did your wife or daughter or even mother come near you while on their period or god for bid leave the house? Death for them. Have you ever had a hair cut? Sorry dude but you are an abomination just like those gays.

We as a people have grown and changed over centuries. In behaviours in norms in understanding what is good for us and bad for us. I think God gets that. I think God understands us more. I think got is fine with Gays and gay marriages because… If God made us than he made Gay. God also gave us free will. That means we have a choice in weather we beleive in God, or in anything. We get to choose how we live our lives, What we do with our bodies, and how we chose to beleive and worship.

Now. Oh, Judgmental ones. What we are not given is the right to judge. So STOP it. Live and let live. Live your life acording to what you beleive and leave others to do the same. When laws are passed to uphold gay marriages and give gays rights. Or abortians remain legal and covered by insurance. It is not an attack on your faith. It is not taking anything away from you. It is however upholding God’s gift of free will. Let others make their choices. You are only in control of you. So be the best you know how to be. Be kind compassionate and caring. You know “Christian” comes from “Christ” and Christians are always touting the importence of living your life in a “Christ like way”. This is my stance and as long as I see billbords and lawn signs promoting hate through religion. As long as I keep getting e-mails about how I can still be saved if I “repent my gay enabling ways”. As long as Women’s Clinic’s that provide abortions, as well as other vital women’s health services, are under attack. I will not shut up about it. I will not stand idoly by while people I care about are hurt and made to feel less than human. You know why? Cause that is what Jesus would do.

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