A sad day… for everyone

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Tonight I am sad. I am sad because a grand jury gave indisputable proof that not only is our justice system fatally flawed but racism has too hard of a grip on our nation.

I am a Caucasian mother of two blond haired little girls. I do not have the same fears for my girls that the mother of a black boy will have. I will, because they are girls have a whole different set of unfair worries. It’s too much. This sliding scale of inequity. This idea that one life has more meaning because of the color of their skin. It has to be stopped. A boy can’t even walk home unnamed and be safe from being shot repeatedly, and once that happens there will be no justice. No closure for the parents. No sense that at least someone will pay for killing their baby boy. Not even a hope that someone will be punished in any real way.

I want to scream and stomp make my voice heard. Let it be known that this is not acceptable. instead I will cry… and I will write and I will make damn sure that my girls no that we are all equal skin color, nationality, gender etc do not change your worth as a human being and never should.

My thoughts are with those who are directly affected, with those who are not directly affected but feel the hurt that this decision will cause. I hope that the aftermath causes a change for the good. That no more innocent lives are lost in vain.

 

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Recharging my bateries

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I went into the mountains this weekend. To celebrate the birthday of a dear friend and to have some time out in nature with some great people.

I am nigh on a hermit The girls are a handful to start, then there are my health issues. So my usual excursions into the world consist of things for the children, Costco, Target, and Doctors appointments. When I am not feeling like defrosted poop I try to get out and do something once month but that doesn’t always pan out. So this weekend was much-needed social interaction.

My friends cabin. Is a family retreat built by her family it has plumbing and electricity a full kitchen…but no internet access very limited cell service, no TV. We make our own fun and actually interacted with each other!

There is something about the environment a good ways up into the mountains right next the river. Fully taking advantage of our Pacific North west location. It’s breathtaking. I always find going out into nature so invigorating. This time was no different.

I spend two nights up there with some really great people. It was the perfect combination of personalities and environment for some great conversations and top-notch memories. Friday and Saturday night were all about the food and socializing me a couple of people managed to stay up till 4 playing a game called cards against humanity with the 3rd party expansion packs by crabs adjust humidity hours and hours of demented hilarious fun.

 

If you have never played Cards Against Humanity go to this link print out the printable pack give it a try. If you like it; which most do, then buy it. The main set and the bigger blacker box are a must. I would try to get every expansion you can get your hands on as well. The more cards the more opportunities you have to show your friends how truly demented you are and visa versa. New expansions and even the beginning set do sell out so grab what you can and check back regularly for new stuff

 

Even after going to sleep so late I was still up at before 9 I did a little clean up and started a pot of coffee for the coffee drinkers went and sat by the river and just took in the beauty of my surroundings in the crisp morning air. Then just quietly read for a while with the occasional break for a chat or to love on the adorable 1yr old malamute puppy (whom was the best behaved dog ever and I am now completely in love with) that belonged to a great couple that I got to meet on this excursion

I feel recharged. Now that I’m home, a suburban neighborhood of Greater Seattle. I appreciate my life here more. I feel lighter than when I left Friday. Like several pounds of stress has been lifted off my shoulders. The drudgery and frustrations I felt the last week. They don’t seem so big of a deal today. I missed my husband the kids (both fur and fleshy) something fierce but I came back to them a much more chill centered and functional mommy. So I think totally worth the short-term separation.

My back is absolutely killing due to unconventional or rustic seating and my already broken body… but I figure it’s a small price to pay for emotional well being

 

 

The windows in the morning

What I’ve learned on my mini break:

There are amazing people in the world talk to them learn new things

I need a jaunt through nature at least once a month even if it’s just a day drive through The Pass or to The Falls. Something where I can, and will, be able to recharge my emotional and physical batteries on nature. I need it.

I need to set aside some time each day for myself where I’m not plugged in to something electronic.

I say it every time I go to a cabin up in mountains but this time I really mean it. Someday I will have a cabin of my own!

I am demented but all the best people are

Oatmeal Dream Bars

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I woke up with the desire  to bake but nothing I had a recipe for was satisfying my yen. So I decided to modify a recipe I had and modify it to fit my desires. This came out of  basic oatmeal peanut butter bar recipe and my devious mind.

 

2cups brown sugar

1/2 cup butter

1 1/3 cup chocolate hazelnut butter

1 1/2 cup gf oats

1/2 cup gf baking flour

1/2 cup almond flour

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

14oz sweetened condensed milk

1 cup sliced or chopped almonds.

First cream butter and brown sugar. Then slowly combine hazel nut butter, flours, baking soda, and oats. Once the mixture is well combined press evenly into a greased 8×12 pan. Bake at 350 for 5min pull out and pour condensed milk evenly over the top and put back into the oven for 10 min or sprinkle almond on top and back for 2 additional minutes or until milk looks like caramel and almonds are golden

I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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When you go looking for evil that is what you find

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I’ve reached a breaking point. I really want to write a blog about what is going on with the whole #GamerGate fiasco and the  implications. I got into a conversation today and yesterday that really disturbed me. There are a lot of people who seem to think this issue is only about video games. That is so not the case.

This is not about throwing fits over gaming reviews and gamer rights. It’s about how women are being treated. The stream of vile profanities, abuse, and threats being flung at these women. Not just in private but all over the internet. These women’s lives are being eviscerated, because a few guys don’t like their points of view. I’ll get into it more later but now this is about the fall out from research.

There is so much out there on the things these women and their families are being put through. When you did deeper and you look for more it’s everywhere. The things that people do. The names called. The things done to children. I can’t help but feel that we have failed as a culture as whole the human race has failed. Failed to be basically good.

I’m going to try to weed through all the information and give you a cohesive picture of what is wrong. Of where we need to change and how to move forward. I fear it will take longer to crank it out than I thought, but I am committed to this. I think this is so important and I don’t want to fall short on this. Humanity is scary.

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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When you go looking for evil that is what you find

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I’ve reached a breaking point. I really want to write a blog about what is going on with the whole #GamerGate fiasco and the  implications. I got into a conversation today and yesterday that really disturbed me. There are a lot of people who seem to think this issue is only about video games. That is so not the case.

This is not about throwing fits over gaming reviews and gamer rights. It’s about how women are being treated. The stream of vile profanities, abuse, and threats being flung at these women. Not just in private but all over the internet. These women’s lives are being eviscerated, because a few guys don’t like their points of view. I’ll get into it more later but now this is about the fall out from research.

There is so much out there on the things these women and their families are being put through. When you did deeper and you look for more it’s everywhere. The things that people do. The names called. The things done to children. I can’t help but feel that we have failed as a culture as whole the human race has failed. Failed to be basically good.

I’m going to try to weed through all the information and give you a cohesive picture of what is wrong. Of where we need to change and how to move forward. I fear it will take longer to crank it out than I thought, but I am committed to this. I think this is so important and I don’t want to fall short on this. Humanity is scary.

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I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

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http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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When you go looking for evil that is what you find

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I’ve reached a breaking point. I really want to write a blog about what is going on with the whole #GamerGate fiasco and the  implications. I got into a conversation today and yesterday that really disturbed me. There are a lot of people who seem to think this issue is only about video games. That is so not the case.

This is not about throwing fits over gaming reviews and gamer rights. It’s about how women are being treated. The stream of vile profanities, abuse, and threats being flung at these women. Not just in private but all over the internet. These women’s lives are being eviscerated, because a few guys don’t like their points of view. I’ll get into it more later but now this is about the fall out from research.

There is so much out there on the things these women and their families are being put through. When you did deeper and you look for more it’s everywhere. The things that people do. The names called. The things done to children. I can’t help but feel that we have failed as a culture as whole the human race has failed. Failed to be basically good.

I’m going to try to weed through all the information and give you a cohesive picture of what is wrong. Of where we need to change and how to move forward. I fear it will take longer to crank it out than I thought, but I am committed to this. I think this is so important and I don’t want to fall short on this. Humanity is scary.

I am a mean mommy, and I’m okay with that!

Standard

http://familyshare.com/12-ways-to-be-the-meanest-mom-in-the-world

This article first came to my attention when a friend tagged me on facebook I was over joyed! I’m trying to raise my kids to be better than me. More considerate, responsible, kind, respectful, and in the long run ,fingers crossed, happier. Instead of trying to shield them from the inevitable the hurt, and the disappointment. I talk to them and let them know it is part of life and it’s okay. Mistakes teach us. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your kid “no” or upset them. What happens when that child grows up? When that child no longer is a child and has never learned how to deal with disappointment? When they get their first job and things do go their way what will happen?

There seems to be this influx of parenting advice that says don’t say anything negative. Do not punish or correct your child they will naturally do the right thing. Your child will innately know the proper way to behave…I’m sorry but on what planet does that work? Okay yes on occasion you will find that child. That golden child, that innately will be a wonderful person with out being corrected or told what to do. The illusive what I like to call the “Matilda”. A child so overwhelmed by good and brilliance that she is magical and can grow up to be this perfect being even if raised by the worst neglectful parents ever.

Hate to bust your bubbles but that is not going to work with every child. next time you are out in public look around you are you surrounded by exact copies that behave perfectly and never make a mistake? NO! We as adults are not perfect. We don’t have out emotions all figured out yet we expect kids to magically know right from wrong. Or magically know when the right time is for anything? They are little humans with nothing but what you give them teach them empathy and they’ll have it. Let it come to them and it may never happen.

There is a reason why kids need school. It is so they can learn things that they don’t already know. What your job as a parent is to teach them the other things like self control, courtesy, empathy, manners. Many of these school will also help with but that doesn’t mean you, as a parent, are off the hook.

They are your kids and every kid is different I have two and they couldn’t be more different and each requires a different approach to different things. As a parent it is your job to find the balance your kid needs and to try and provide the learning experiences and find ways to fill gaps when they appear. Life skills are not things that appear out of thin air. It is something you have to cultivate. Set ground rules. Allow your child to have disappointments The ups and downs of life are what help them learn and grow as human beings. Not space to make their own decisions for their future, at three years old…that is unless you lucked out a got a Matilda…Other wise you are the adult you make the decisions, sure give them options. Options are great! However you give the options to the child. You have the life experience and are ready to make these decisions. Do not make your child the decision maker.

Be a mean parent. Set rules. Say no. Let them get disappointed every once in a while. Teach them manners and have fun with it. Heck I tell Sparkle & Boo “Hey not everyone thinks you are as adorable as I. So lets remember our manners” or “Okay no one needs to know exactly how weird we are so lets pretend to be well behaved while we are out” to remind them of their behavior. It doesn’t have to be stuffy but it does have to happen…again unless you are parenting a magical perfect child created by the mind of Roald Dahl

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